How to Be Single…This Valentine’s Day

“Wherever you are, be all there.”-Jim Elliot

It’s that time of year.  Valentine’s Day.  The couples are either basking in the joy of the holiday–or trying to pass themselves off as too hipster to care about such a “cliche” holiday.  Meanwhile, the single girls alternate between binge-watching Nicholas Sparks and the Hallmark Channel and proudly proclaiming that “they don’t need no man”.  There are red hearts and Dove chocolates everywhere.

Okay, full disclosure: I kind of love Valentine’s Day–and I’m saying that as a single girl.  3C88109E22Is it the most romantic day of the year?  I certainly hope not.  But I do not think it needs to be in order to be a wonderful holiday with a lot to offer.  The pretty colored decorations, delicious goodies, and sweet words to loved ones–whether your platonic besties or your significant other–are enough to make this holiday pretty fantastic.  I love Valentine’s Day because it is one day out of the year where we slow down and are thankful for the people that we love, and that is something that we could all do a little more.

Now, all that being said, there are definitely still moments where, well, Valentine’s Day can serve as a stinging reminder of something or someone you don’t have in your life right now.  That does not mean, though, that you cannot enjoy the day for what it is and still have a blast.  For me this year, celebrating Valentine’s Day means a night out with my roommates, all of whom find ourselves either single or away from our S.O.’s this Valentine’s Day.  So, so what if you’re not dating someone right now?  Or even if you just happen to be farther away from your boy than you’d like.  You can still make this Valentine’s Day a blast.

Here are four ideas to get you started:

Grab your girlfriends.  Whether you just put your nice dresses on and go out to dinner, throw a real party, or just stay in and watch chick flicks in your pajamas, there is something so refreshing about girl time, and especially on Valentine’s Day, it is much more fun to be with your friends than sitting at home

Send someone (or several someones) a Valentine.  It does not have to be a love interest.  Just drop someone you care about a note to let them know how grateful you are for them.

Have an Un-Valentine’s Day party.  Okay, so maybe cute red hearts aren’t your thing.  It does not mean that you can’t hang out with your friends and celebrate your friendships.  Grab a Marvel film or two or the Bourne Trilogy and have an action movie marathon.  Valentine’s Day does not have to look a certain way.

Get crafty.  Valentine’s Day is a fun holiday for the artsy.  Pick a fun craft you’ve been wanting to do and just get to it!  To make it even  more fun, make it a group crafting day.

Treasure this time.  You aren’t going to be single every Valentine’s Day.  So, if you are this year, enjoy it.  Laugh with your girlfriends.  Value the people in your life.  Appreciate right now.

Remember: a lot can change in a year.


Coffee for the Soul

” I have measured out my life with coffee spoons.”-T.S. Eliot
       If you read this blog very long, something that will become apparent is that I love, love, LOVE coffee.  Ironically, though, I didn’t grow up on the stuff.  Neither of my parents drink coffee (until recently, at least…now, I’m working on getting my mom as hooked as I am).  I guess my coffee habit started at Starbucks some time in late high school, when– between friends, extracurriculars, and finals–I decided that I needed the caffeine boost(not to mention that coffee drinking always struck me as classy).

     Anyways, by the end of my freshman year of college, I was coffee was one of my best friends.  Then, being in Nashville, I discovered an even greater love for it.  Instead of coffee just serving as a caffeine boost, I started to see it as an art form, and one of my favorite things to do was to explore coffee shops.  Nashville is overflowing with them, and I always love finding new little shops.  Right now, my favorite is one right off the campus at Lipscomb University.

Tucked away in a strip mall behind the university, the moment you step inside The Well, you step into this other world.  The atmosphere is warm and cozy. The music has been great every time I’ve been here.  The clientele is primarily college & grad students, but it also draws in everyone from businessmen with their laptops to middle-aged women chatting with their friends. Today, on a regular Tuesday afternoon, the place was packed!

     Their coffee is terrific as well; the baristas know their stuff and are more than willing to share their knowledge and give suggestions. That’s super important to me because my first couple times at a coffee shop, I like to get their recommendations.  If you get a shop’s most popular/signature drinks, you’re going to get a pretty good feel for the shop pretty fast.

      There’s another reason The Well has quickly shot to the top of my fave Nashville coffee spots.  On their website, they proudly announce: “We love coffee.  We love people even more.”  And boy, do they live up to that statement.  Globally, The Well is involved in missions, raising money to support initiatives ranging from boarding schools in African nations to building water wells!  So, every time you buy a cup of coffee, you’re also supporting a good cause.  I love that they have combined service & ministry with coffee!  You walk into the store, and you immediately see items for sale, all supporting The Well’s greater mission.  

      Truly, you can see this global goal influencing every aspect of their business.  So, for me, at the end of the day, this is a spot that is going to be hard to beat.  They make great coffee–and they’re making a difference! 

      This also, I think, offers a challenge for us; after all, you can’t get much more westernized than a nice coffee shop where I can get my Caramel Whip Latte and sit and type away on my laptop in a nice, heated space.  Yet, they have found a way to turn it into a world-impacting venture!  So, surely, we should be doing the same.  No, not everyone is called to go to Kenya themselves, but all of us-particularly Christians-SHOULD be doing something to help those in need.  It’s what the Bible calls us to, and for all of our excuse-making, it is a lot easier than we might think.  We can start by choosing to give our support to businesses like The Well! But, then, we also need to be asking ourselves, what is OUR “Well”?  What are we being called to do to make a difference and a change?  Have thoughts or opinions on things we can do in our daily lives to make a difference?  Feel free to share in the comments.

That’s all for now.  If you’re interested in learning more about The  Well, check out their website!